There's an old saying, that I will now horribly misquote, which says that when you share your burdens, they're divided in half.  I've done a lot of thinking about shared burdens, co-dependence (aka enmeshment), burdens in general (fair and unfair) in the last several years.

I agree with the hoary saying that when someone shares your burden (by listening, by doing something you can't do or don't want to do for yourself) that the load does get lighter.

I've learned that I can't bear someone's burden if they don't want to share the load.  Or, sometimes even if they want to share the load but they need to bear their own burdens to learn their own lessons.

And in light of all this, today I've come up with Laura's corollary to the burden cliche.  If sharing your burdens divides them, then sharing your blessings multiplies the blessing exponentially.

We are here with dear friends, in a place that is literally just south of Paradise.  We love Hale Honu when we're here on our own.  It nurtures, feeds, heals and cradles us.

But when we're here with others, especially those who need (as Mom calls it) the "House of Healing"--well.  Then our blessings are multiplied.  Our cups run overs.

Whales.  No whales.  Birdies.  Triple Bogeys.  It's all good.

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